I Make God Look Bad

I struggle with anxiety. I am a worrier. Sue me. I have been told its probably hard for my husband that I deal with anxiety, and I heartily agree. But its even harder on me. I have also been told that Christianity must not be working because if it worked, I wouldn’t be so fearful…

Dear Wife Who’s Married to a Jerk…

Dear wife who’s married to a jerk, Nitty Gritty Love is a conversation. So when we hear the same feedback from readers, I want to address it. We spend a lot of time here encouraging women, and we are equally encouraged, but when we get this question, I will admit, I sink a little inside.…

Why Fighting Means You Care

Indifference equals hatred.  Wow. That is a strong statement. But I think it is a true one. Our pastor said this in a message recently and it jumped out at me because while I know our marriage has a lot of issues, indifference is not one of them. Now, I may tell my spouse I…

Why I Cheer More Than I Lead

Never underestimate the power of a soft word. Marriage is full of little hurdles to jump. Sometimes you even have to scale a mountain or two in an effort to make progress. I wish relationships were easier. I wish my husband and I saw things the same way and never disagreed. I also wish ice…

To the Spouse Who Doesn’t Understand Anxiety…

My husband recently told me he wishes that he knew what my anxiety felt like. He knows the stress of the night before a test, the fearful anticipation of a job interview, and the normal stressors of life—but he doesn’t know the anxiety that I know. I’m guessing there are more of you spouses out…

What Butterflies Actually Have to Do with Love

Here are some things I’ve learned about love: It is not something that “happens” to you. It is not something you “fall into.” It does not occur at, “first sight.” This my friends, is called infatuation. And infatuation doesn’t stick around. As soon as the rubber meets the road, infatuation high tails it, and leaves you to…

5 Promises that Squelch Fear

This world is so scary sometimes. I had to stop watching the news because it was so depressing. Fear is something we battle our whole lives. It doesn’t matter if you’re a man, woman, or child. It hits us all and we find ourselves scrambling for cover. God knew we were going to be running…