Posts on Marriage

Half of the Equation

I sat in the marriage counselor’s office with my arms crossed. I was feeling pretty frustrated. My husband and I had been through a difficult season and were working hard on our relationship. God was giving us glimpses of what was in store for us, but the process was so painfully slow. We were having…

Dancing in the Minefields

I remember reading books on the topic of dating in high school. They said “don’t date, you have absolutely no chance of marrying who you date in high school—and even if you do, it won’t turn out well.” I always knew Kyle was different than the boys I read about in those books. We always knew…

20/20 Vision

My son put on my glasses and stumbled across the room. He said, “Mom, why is it blurry when I look through your lenses?” I told him it was because we all have different eyesight so everyone uses different lenses to look through. I sat there for a minute and thought, “Well, ain’t that the…

Put Away Your Phone

My iPhone… We’re joined at the hip, my iphone and me. My iPhone is always by my side. It’s attached to my arm at the gym, it’s on my desk while I’m at work, it’s next to me on the couch while I’m watching TV, it’s on the table next to my plate while I’m…

The Best Kind Of Work – Ben Affleck

Ben Affleck is getting some heavy criticism this week.  Evidently people didn’t like his acceptance speech at the Oscars. Clearly the messages scribbled on his hands by his daughters didn’t convince the public of his family devotion. They didn’t appreciate him mentioning that his marriage takes “work”.   More and more our culture shuns hard work. …

3 Things to Remember on Your Wedding Day

  1. Your emotions might get the best of you. My entire wedding day, I felt like crying my eyes out. I wasn’t sad, and I wasn’t really sure where they were coming from—yet they were constantly welled up in my eyes. I think part of it was because I was in shock that the…

Trust The Process

Forgiving is difficult. Plain and simple. It can throw us for a loop when we have to forgive. I wonder if it’s because we are conditioned from childhood to think forgiveness is such a simple routine. Remember back…you are  playing out in the yard with a friend. Out of nowhere your friend hauls off and…

Love is a Verb

An amazing truth has recently settled around my heart like a warm blanket. It took twenty one years for me to see it clearly. I don’t know if it dawned on me all at once, or just sort of slowly made it’s way in. People show love for others in their own way. They really,…

Going to Bed Angry

Recently Kyle and I got into a heated argument. And to be quite honest, it was over something so miniscule that I can’t even remember why we were arguing. What I do remember is that around 11 p.m. I looked at the clock and realized that we had been fighting for three hours already. My…