Why Fighting Means You Care

Indifference equals hatred.  Wow. That is a strong statement. But I think it is a true one. Our pastor said this in a message recently and it jumped out at me because while I know our marriage has a lot of issues, indifference is not one of them. Now, I may tell my spouse I…

3 Ground Rules for Arguments

After my mom’s recent post on diffusing a fight, I got to thinking about things I’ve learned from our arguments over the past few years. Both Kyle and I tend to get grumpiest when we’re stressed. That’s generally when small things appear big, we make a big deal out of things that aren’t, and arguments are…

Arguing 101: How to Diffuse a Fight

Have you ever had a disagreement with your spouse that seemed impossible to resolve? You know, those times when you are not on the same page, and there is no clear resolution in sight. It’s easy to let things get heated and suddenly a small issue becomes a huge issue. Then you both dig your…

Going to Bed Angry

Recently Kyle and I got into a heated argument. And to be quite honest, it was over something so miniscule that I can’t even remember why we were arguing. What I do remember is that around 11 p.m. I looked at the clock and realized that we had been fighting for three hours already. My…